I have all of the following:
COBB RMM
Motul 300 Trans Fluid
Boomba Aluminum Shifter and Trans Bushings
Boomba Aluminum Adapter Plate
Boomba Short Shifter
nopistons Gas Pedal Spacer
Lathewerks Hybrid Piston Shift Knob
So where does that leave me with shift feel? I'd consider it just about perfect, which I realize is subjective. The Boomba kit obviously makes the biggest difference. Super short throws (40% reduction) greatly decrease the amount of time between gears, while the bushings and adapter increase the "notchiness". Nothing about shifting my car feels soft. Very hard, satisfying, mechanical shifts.
Honestly the fluid change didn't make a huge difference to me. I did it when it was due for a change anyway, but I wouldn't label it as a necessity.
The RMM is a necessity for our cars since the engine will smack the firewall on hard 1-2 shifts without it, but I can't speak to the difference vs. OEM because I purchased my car with the RMM installed.
Finally, the shift knob. Get one that's heavier than stock for sure. I like having more surface area to grip, so I went with a tall cylindrical knob but really anything is going to be more satisfying than the plain jane small OEM knob.