I know the feeling. I worked in a tire shop for four years after high school, and I've seen it all. To be fair, most tire jockeys are making minimum wage or only slightly better, and in my experience few of them last more than a month or so. Basically their 'give a damn' is pretty low.
You can use an impact gun on the lowest setting to pull them off and lightly drive them on without damaging the shells. But always break them loose by hand with a breaker bar, and ALWAYS tighten them to spec with a torque wrench.
I'm sure everyone here knows that, I just wish more tire jockeys and service techs knew it.