Terribly sorry, I read this but got sidetracked and forgot to respond.
I have not used my car in high heat or traffic thus I cannot answer everything properly at the moment except to say having an oil cooler and opening up the grill will help quite a bit I am sure.
Also there is room to open up the lower side of the radiator support to allow much more air flow out of the IC and you could direct some of that below the radiator, even more if you lower the IC as far as it will go.
Also sealing up everything to maximize air flow through all the coolers will help.
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My car has never been driven in over 75 degree weather, 2k miles, mostly test runs, some track use.
70 degrees on track with 238 oil temp just once, the rest of the runs were in the lower 200 range, Max water temp was around 220 but the actual numbers are on this thread or my track even thread...with the stock but much better used radiator. I decided then I needed a bigger radiator, the 2-J was not out nor had been placed on custom order until I bought Mishimoto and already started doing the install or was about to, etc...
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Opening up the grill is a tedious task, I used a big rough abrasive disk and it has to be kept moving as it will start to melt the grill, then a utility knife to clean up the slag left behind.
I notched my bumper and looking for a decent price on some aero tubing to weld back in to ensure the best flow and strenght.
One could cut round holes, slide in a tube and weld them to get better flow with less work and more strength, the tubing would not need thick side walls nor full perimeter welding. The beam is of high strength steel and rather hard to drill into so a punch would be better. Oval tubing is available so two holes cut then trimmed with a cut off wheel would open it up more.
Or, cut rectangular hose with a cut off wheel and slide in rectangular tubing and weld it in, this would be easier than punching holes by far.
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I have been considering oval holes in the bumper beam to get more direct air to the IC but have not found anything suitable to trim them with and do not just want plain holes.
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Hope this helps at least a bit